You see, as a business owner and a site designer, I had a problem.  For the longest time I would always, always say “yes”. I was the “yes” girl.

When I launched my new business this past January, I vowed to make changes. I vowed to set up guidelines for working with me – and to stick with them.

Creating a website or graphic for someone else’s company takes work from both sides – I need your feedback and ideas before I can get you what you actually want. I have created worksheets and questionnaires for my clients to fill out so I can get all the answers I need. That was one of the problems I had in the past – clients saying “I don’t care, do what you think is best” which is not conducive to building YOUR brand. If I design everything based on my style and taste, ultimately you will end up not being satisfied with your product. (Not to be confused with me building on an idea – that’s different)

So when I was contacted by a prospective client this week, and the email was a huge red-flag for me. It simply read “Hello. Please send me your skill set. Thank You.”. Right off the bat, I knew they didn’t take even a second to visit my website, since listed right there in plain english are my “skill sets”.

My reply was cordial and friendly – explaining my procedure for phone consolations and requesting for more info on the project over email prior to the call. His response was a flat out “No” – he needed his stuff now and could not wait.

Now, I understand the need for getting something done ASAP. I am sympathetic to that and I will bend my rules in certain situations. But assuming I will stop work on all my clients projects and prioritize yours when we have no prior relationship and when you refuse to send details over email is just, well, insulting to me. The reality is, I run a business, I am busy, I have clients – and treating me as if my schedule is unimportant is just rude.

So I was happy with that rejection. I celebrated (with a cookie, actually). It reinforced the fact that I was making the right decision by establishing my boundaries and standing by them. My clients know that they are important to me and that they will be taken care of. And for those who are not my clients yet, I hope you understand that my rules and restrictions are in place for two reasons – 1) Because I respect myself and 2) Because I respect my clients.

Here’s the real truth — I am not an employee. I used to feel like getting a client project was actually them doing me a favor. Now I recognize that it’s the opposite. Web designers are a dime a dozen… and everyone treats their business differently. I’m not reinvently the wheel here, I know there are other people who can do what I do… but what you get when you work with me is… ta da! Me! And while before I just lumped myself in the category of  “just another web designer”, I now know I am different b/c I am personally involved in my clients project. I want them to succeed more then I want them to pay me (the money is just a perk).

So from here on out, my prospects and I interview each other – we decide if we should work together. I do not give the time of day to those people who treat me as if I am their employee, as if they are doing me a favor. Trust me, I don’t need those kind of favors.